From Carolyn Hax's Chat on washingtonpost.com today...
This really made my day…
Re: brave: Really? Being single is being brave?
Really, Carolyn, I think you missed this one. That statement says a whole lot more about the poster than anything else.
Geez. I’m single. It’s not anything monumental or courageous or any other condescending adjective you’d like to label it.
Carolyn Hax: For anyone who wants to be married for the sake of being married, there is a bad-marriage opportunity available at just about every turn.
Therefore, someone who remains single has, consciously or not (but usually consciously), declined to get married just for the sake of being married, and instead is choosing to be alone, for however long it takes until marriage is the right move. That does take the courage of one’s convictions, especially when the single person feels the external pressure of an entire peer group that has already paired off.
So I guess it’s the difference between seeing someone as single by default, or single by choice. Seeing it as single by choice is a compliment, I would think, not condescension.